Ladies….please do not fall into this mindset. There seems to be some sort of influx lately of people (women) perpetuating this belied as if it is the gospel truth. To say that all men cheat is to say that no man, anywhere on earth, has the intellectual, moral, ethical, or spiritual capacity to remain faithful to his significant other. This is simply untrue! Yes, there are many men who cheat on their wives, girlfriends, whatever, but by no means does that make it something that ALL men do.
By accepting this belief, it only makes the men who DO cheat feel justified in their unacceptable behavior. This “boys will be boys” mentality is, I believe, one of the many reasons that some men ARE unfaithful. Think about it…. If you know that you’re expected to cheat anyway, why not do it, if you’re going to be accused? And a lot of women fall for this…… WHY? Understand that you have value, which you should not compromise for someone who does not respect you enough to remain faithful in your relationship. The men who are proven cheaters, and are generally childish and immature are not men who are worth your time.
Proverbs 5:18-23 says
“18 Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice with the wife of your youth. 19 As a loving deer and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; And always be enraptured with her love. 20 For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman, And be embraced in the arms of a seductress? 21 For the ways of man are before the eyes of the LORD, And He ponders all his paths. 22 His own iniquities entrap the wicked man, And he is caught in the cords of his sin. 23 He shall die for lack of instruction, And in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray”
A man of God (which is the only kind you should be dealing with ANYWAY, at least I believe) cannot simply ignore such explicit instruction, especially with the repercussions written out RIGHT there.
NOW, let me say, that EVERY man (and woman, for that matter) IS subject to temptation. And every temptation has a way out of it, even though some may be harder than others to find. Just because a man falls into that temptation doesn’t automatically mean that he does not love you, that’s he’s going to burn in hell, that he’s no longer attracted to you, etc. Nobody is perfect, and it may have been a mistake that he is genuinely sorry for. If you’re a woman who is in this situation, im going to suggest forgiveness. ONE TIME. IF he is good man in all other aspects. And IF he is your husband. Notice that I said ONE time. A repeat offender gets the boot J (Once again, this is only my opinion, as someone who has never been cheated on, so it may be easier said than done, I will admit!)
I was reading an article on Clutch magazine a few days ago, about the “Other Woman.” I actually found the article interesting. Not that I AGREED with what these women were doing but it was interesting nonetheless. It wasn’t the article that bothered me though, it was a few of the comments on the articles, which suggested that it was unreasonable to EXPECT faithfulness. This disgusts me to no end, because my husband would NEVER, and I believe that will all of my heart, not only because of his love and devotion for me, but because of his love and devotion to Christ.
But anywho, what do you think about this issue? Do you think that ALL men cheat? Have you been cheated on? What did you do? Did you stay in the relationship?