I absolutely cannot stand it when someone feels like an attack is the best way to sell themselves, or get their opinion across. If what you’re saying/selling can’t stand on it’s own merits, without the need to belittle someone or their beliefs, maybe you should rethink the value of what you’re supporting.
Very often, in the blogosphere, I see moms attacking other moms for the choices they make for their children. This baffles me to no end. Really? With all the stresses and challenges that we ALL face as mothers, wives, sisters, daughters, can we really not communicate with each other “nicely”? We expect for our children to exhibit a certain level of respect to their peers, and not be bullies, so why can’t we seem to apply that concept to ourselves?
The most prevalent example of this seems be in the whole Breast vs Bottle debate. Breast is best. There’s no denying that. The benefits that breastfeeding offers both mother and child are undeniable, so why do some breastfeeding advocates feel the need to attack moms who feed their children formula? Why do we have to treat a can of Similac like its arsenic? By all means, educate women about breastfeeding, let them know how great it is. It’s not a political campaign, but both parties would be better served by leaving the mudslinging to the elected officials. What side am I on? The side where mommies make sure babies have full tummies.
Am I being naive? Am I just being too “nice”? Maybe I’m a little too “sunshine and rainbows”, but if you’re trying to sell me on a product or idea, the minute I hear something negative come out of your mouth about people who don’t share your same world view, Im tuning you out. What do YOU have to offer? What’s so great about the way YOU do it? Why should I think that ___ is the best parenting book/food for my baby/type of diaper? Why shouldn’t I spank/use crib bumpers/use a doctor instead of a midwife? You can convince people without even mentioning the other side of the coin. Sure, it takes a little more thought, and a little more effort. Stop being lazy, and when you discuss what you believe in, whether its
- Spank/No Spank
- Medicated Birth/Natural Birth
- Store-bought Baby Food/Homemade Baby Food
- etc, etc
make an effort to argue your point without saying anything bad about the opposite way of doing it. You’ll probably discover new ways to articulate your view, and in turn, be even more convincing!
Chime in, ladies. What do you think? Is it ok to “Go In On” an opposing view when you’re discussing your beliefs?
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