So… last Friday, I found myself EXTREMELY frustrated with Byron. He came home, we ate dinner, and then….he was like:
“I’m about to see what new movies have come out, and rent a few.”
Um..ok. Only problem is….I’m not in the mood to watch movies! And he didn’t even bother to ask me. He went through the list of movies, and I vetoed every option. He put a few in the cart anyway. Ok. #sideeye. So, I told him:
“I don’t want to watch movies. To me, it’s not quality time spent together. It’s just another way that we end up staring at the tv all night, not talking to each other.”
“Wow, I never thought about it like that! ”
Then he rented the movies anyway.
!!!!! HE RENTED THE DAMN MOVIES ANYWAY!!!!!
So, of course, I went into silent treatment mode. I was pissed. So, he goes and gets his little movies. I start crying and stuff when he leaves, (like he ain’t coming back?!?!) telling myself
“Oh my God, he doesn’t care what I wanna do, oh my God, he’s so selfish”.
*rolls eyes at self* Izzy is looking at me like I’m crazy. I go from mad, to sad, then back to mad. Byron comes back from getting the movies, talking to me like he doesn’t know I’m mad. And I’m giving my BEST silent treatment too. So, it gets to be Izzy’s bedtime, I put her to sleep. And Byron puts on one of the movies. So I leave. I get my cell phone and netbook, go in the bedroom, close the door, and get in the bed. Navigate to one of my favorite youtube channels to listen. Pulled up tweetdeck to tweetwatch while I listened to my youtubers. Found a fun game to play on my phone while I did both of those. And you know what? I had a great time!
At first, I was a little confused. Like, I’m supposed to be mad right now…..why am I having fun? Then I realized….I was doing what I wanted to do. By myself. Not concerned with if Byron was entertained or not. Izzy was sleep, so I knew she was cool. I was free to just relax, and chill. I wasn’t mad anymore. I was actually a little disappointed when Byron came to bed after his movie was over. I wasn’t ready for my “me” time to be over!
We were so wrapped up in making sure Izzy got the attention she needed, and then that our marriage got the attention it needed…we forgot that we, individually, needed to give ourselves some attention. It’s not ALL about the us. Sometimes it is just about me, or just about him. Whether or not it was on purpose, Byron had asserted his much needed alone time. I mean…he works from 8-5 every day as a Database Analyst, which is basically solving crazy issues all day. Then, he works with his real estate clients, which is basically solving emotional issues. Then, he has a wife and child to tend to. Which is rainbows, sunshine, and big, fat, fluffy kittens. You believe that. But in any case, what I’m saying is, I can get why he wasn’t concerned with what I wanted to do. He had been concerned with what other people wanted all day! Can you blame the man for wanting to do what HE wanted to do? I sure can’t! I work with clients all day, while tending to a needy toddler, and taking care of a home. Then, I have to tend to him. I can TOTALLY relate to wanting to do your own thing for a little while!
So, this long, long post is just basically just to share with you guys how a situation that completely pissed me off, actually ended up being a lesson that Byron and I can take with us as our marriage grows, and we learn more about being husband and wife. Hopefully, you can take something from it too. And if not, at least laugh at my incredible skills in over-dramatizing 🙂