So….I hate the freaking potty. Really, I hate it. Mimi, over at Lipgloss and Binky, blogged today about getting to a major potty milestone with her little girl, and it really, really, reinforced my hatred of that pink heaux. It seems like EVERYBODY I know can get their child (YOUNGER than Izzy!!) to use the potty, except me! So I figure, the potty must have something against me.
Izzy is fast approaching 2.5, and is not even CLOSE to being potty trained, despite me trying pretty much every trick in the book, short of letting her go bare-bottomed. We have carpet. And white furniture. Bare-bottom doesn’t work for us. No.
We’ve tried putting her in panties, which she LOVED. Then she pooped in them. It was a mess, to say the least. And that was the last time we tried that.
We’ve tried offering rewards for going in the potty. She will sit on it for HOURS without doing anything, then when I finally put her back in a diaper, for a nap, or to leave the house, etc, she’ll finally go. Then demand her reward.
She WILL let us know as soon as she has gone in her diaper, but how do I get her to connect the dots that she needs to tell me BEFORE? How do you teach the sensation of “I have to pee” to someone?
Izzy is a very smart, very able child. She understands that you are supposed to pee and poop in the potty. Whenever I go to the bathroom, she is right on my heels, and will even request that I take her diaper/pullup down so that she can sit on the potty too. She just.won’t.freaking.use.it. I’m not down with spanking or scaring her into using the potty, but really, I’m running out of ideas. I’m trying my best to just go with the flow, and keep it a very low-pressure situation. I’m not really concerned about the cost of diapers, I don’t mind changing diapers (if the alternative is cleaning poop off of my walls/floors/furniture/ her hair O_O). I don’t care about comments like “As good as Izzy talks, why is she still in diapers?” (Because what the f*&%? How are the two related? F$%#ing really?), but I DO care about whether or not I’m doing the best by her.
I’ve seen plenty of parents that say their child wasn’t potty-trained until well into 3 years old, that it just didn’t “click” for their child until then,and that it was actually much less hassle (and mess) than their kids that they potty trained earlier. And then I see stuff like this: “The Dangers of Potty Training Early” which REALLY screws my head up, with claims that potty training too early can lead to bowel problems, chronic UTI’s, etc. But I’ve also read an article (that I unfortunately can’t find a link to) that claims that late potty training can lead to incontinence, and other issues. SO WHAT THE HELL AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?!
It’s all so frustrating. Conflicting ideas about what’s best, what’s right, what’s wrong. I’m honestly kinda tired of thinking about it. Is it possible for kids to potty train themselves? Like, maybe she’ll wake up one day and just say “Hey…..I think I’m gonna go ahead and use that potty today.” A girl can dream, right?