So….I hate the freaking potty. Really, I hate it. Mimi, over at Lipgloss and Binky, blogged today about getting to a major potty milestone with her little girl, and it really, really, reinforced my hatred of that pink heaux. It seems like EVERYBODY I know can get their child (YOUNGER than Izzy!!) to use the potty, except me! So I figure, the potty must have something against me.
Izzy is fast approaching 2.5, and is not even CLOSE to being potty trained, despite me trying pretty much every trick in the book, short of letting her go bare-bottomed. We have carpet. And white furniture. Bare-bottom doesn’t work for us. No.
We’ve tried putting her in panties, which she LOVED. Then she pooped in them. It was a mess, to say the least. And that was the last time we tried that.
We’ve tried offering rewards for going in the potty. She will sit on it for HOURS without doing anything, then when I finally put her back in a diaper, for a nap, or to leave the house, etc, she’ll finally go. Then demand her reward.
She WILL let us know as soon as she has gone in her diaper, but how do I get her to connect the dots that she needs to tell me BEFORE? How do you teach the sensation of “I have to pee” to someone?
Izzy is a very smart, very able child. She understands that you are supposed to pee and poop in the potty. Whenever I go to the bathroom, she is right on my heels, and will even request that I take her diaper/pullup down so that she can sit on the potty too. She just.won’t.freaking.use.it. I’m not down with spanking or scaring her into using the potty, but really, I’m running out of ideas. I’m trying my best to just go with the flow, and keep it a very low-pressure situation. I’m not really concerned about the cost of diapers, I don’t mind changing diapers (if the alternative is cleaning poop off of my walls/floors/furniture/ her hair O_O). I don’t care about comments like “As good as Izzy talks, why is she still in diapers?” (Because what the f*&%? How are the two related? F$%#ing really?), but I DO care about whether or not I’m doing the best by her.
I’ve seen plenty of parents that say their child wasn’t potty-trained until well into 3 years old, that it just didn’t “click” for their child until then,and that it was actually much less hassle (and mess) than their kids that they potty trained earlier. And then I see stuff like this: “The Dangers of Potty Training Early” which REALLY screws my head up, with claims that potty training too early can lead to bowel problems, chronic UTI’s, etc. But I’ve also read an article (that I unfortunately can’t find a link to) that claims that late potty training can lead to incontinence, and other issues. SO WHAT THE HELL AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?!
*sigh*
It’s all so frustrating. Conflicting ideas about what’s best, what’s right, what’s wrong. I’m honestly kinda tired of thinking about it. Is it possible for kids to potty train themselves? Like, maybe she’ll wake up one day and just say “Hey…..I think I’m gonna go ahead and use that potty today.” A girl can dream, right?
I’m in the exact same place as you. His teacher and I just had a looooong convo about it this morning and our goal is to have him potty trained by the end of the summer! I’ll let you know how it goes!
You and I have had plenty of potty conversations. I truly think Izzy ( and pookah) are not ready just yet. As parents we have our own expectations of what we think our children should be doing. I thought Jas would be done with potty training before she turned 2. She wasn’t ready and I didn’t force the issue. For her, it did click one day and she started going all on her own. She loved wearing panties and would get very upset if she had an accident.
I would suggest as far as pooping goes that you figure out how soon she poops after she eats are follow those pooping cues i know she gives. Once you have the pooping in the potty down the peeing in the potty comes much easier. Good luck honey.
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Oh bless you! Another frustrated mom! lol My son will be 3 in September and on one hand I’m getting anxious about the potty training… then I feel like “it’ll happen when it happens..” His school says he’s doing great and the leader when it comes to potty training in his age group; but then I think well hell, he should be going in the potty! He does the same thing to me that you say Izzy does: on our tails when we hit the bathroom, alerts us when he goes IN his diaper.. *sigh*.
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That pink heaux? DEAD!!!!
My son was very difficult. He would pee but not poop.
I say continue to introduce the concept and let her get it in her own time. The thing is they are little people and they will not do anything until they are ready.
*sends happy go potty vibes through the interwebs*
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I so feel your pain, I bought the potty when Zee was 2.5 and let her try to get used to the idea of going in it. When I used the bathroom I would have her sit down on it. We didn’t really start training her until 3.
We still have problems (she’s not pooping in it yet), but these things will happen in time. I know how frustrating it could be, but I agree with Mimi and Krizzy, she just may not be ready yet.
It’s like trying to rush out the house with a kid and they know you’re rushing. Doesn’t it seem like they just slow down and stall more?
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About a month ago, RJ started letting us know when he goes in his diaper. However, he doesn’t do the same with his teachers at school. At his check up last week, his doctor suggested we buy a potty but don’t force it on him. So, that’s what we’re going to do. He may be trained by the end of this year or a year and a half from now. We’re going to wait for him to let us know.
Good luck with Izzy!
Each child is different. My oldest was fully potty trained by 2 with minimal accidents.. My middle child I tried but he had no interest..instead of losing my cool and pulling my hair out and trying to figure out what I was doing wrong I just let him be.. at just before 3 yrs old he took off his pull up himself and told me he wanted to go to the big boys bathroom. I took him and he went..
Don’t let yourself get worked up.. keep trying.. Izzy may wake up tomorrow and surprise you.. potty training is a lesson in patience..
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Don’t worry about it. All of our kids basically told us when they were ready. When you rush them is when you have the most accidents. The twins are 3 and love to wear pull-ups but aren’t ready to be potty trained. I say just wait until she’s ready.
Hugs and Mocha,
Stesha
V started out really excited about the potty but has since lost interest. She would go 1 and 2 when we sat her on it. Today at 21 months, I put panties on her. She said she had to “poo”. I took her to the potty. She refused to sit on it and proceeded to 1 and 2 with panties on standing next to potty. She’s just not ready but I wish she was.
Hang in there!
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All I can say is stay strong! I think my son was pushed to use the potty when other boys at his daycare were making fun of him for still using a pull up,lol.
Don´t worry about it! Each child is different…good luck for your motherhood.
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I think my son was pushed to use the potty when other boys at his daycare were making fun of him for still using a pull up,lol. Thanks for sharing.
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Don’t worry about the potty, it will happen sooner or later. My little cousin didn’t get the hang of it till she was three. I tried to teach her as well, placed her on the potty every time I saw her face go red but she would sit for 30 min and nothing. I would take the potty away and she would pee or poop on the carpet!! -___- Just make sure to stay away from water or watery-fruits a few hours before bed. This will also help for the night wetters. I had one of those in the family as well. He stopped wetting the bed around the time he was 9. Good luck and be patient! =)
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Don’t give up! It will come. My daughter wasn’t fully potty trained until she was 3 years and 2 months. I remember it to the day. And we did everything you did too… sitting her on the potty, giving rewards, and everything in between AND went through everything you’re going through… pooping in the panties, her sitting there all day. When we were out, I’d always have a change of clothes and I was asking her like every 10 minutes (literally). There were times she’d use those change of clothes, but I figured it came with the territory. And one day while we were out, she just asked if we could go to the bathroom! I was beyond hyped! There were a lot of things we did in the mix, but that’d take forever to write up, but I’m glad it worked when it did because it was time for her to start school and they wouldn’t take her if she wasn’t potty-trained.
I’m there with you and my son is 2.5. He’s getting more and more interested and we’re going with the flow. The progress is gradual but, it’s progress. Another mom I know put it to me like this. If someone told you that you (as an adult) your new normal was to go potty on yourself, how hard would that be? It’s the same concept for them. All they’ve known is to just let it flow in their diapers so it can be an odd switch to say well now it’s time for you to do something different. Totally foreign concept, ya know? She’ll get there.
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I went exactly on the same situation as you are. It may take a lot of patience from us. But it will be rewarding when you realize that they are getting there. Trust me.
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Yeah… Nellie has zero interest in the potty. Zero. I’m trying hard not to push because I’ve heard that can eff them up. But I’m right there with you – Nellie is smart as hell and I’m just like WTF can’t you crap in a porcelain hole instead of your diaper? WHYYYYYYYYY?
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I’m sure Izzy will be potty-trained when she grows old. I am also experiencing that situation on my daughter. In order not to pressure my daughter I just let her to overcome this stage. I am just hoping that she will change when she grows up.
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I want to learn how to make some pottery..I went exactly where you are..Thank you for sharing this kind of post..
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This is so encouraging to see i am not the only one that hates the potty. My son has no interest in it and i am making pull-ups rich! thank you for sharing and letting me know i am not crazy or alone!
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I am interested in this topic..Thanks a lot for sharing this post..
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Don’t take it as too hard. Just do your usual.It just takes a little bit time. That’s it.
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My daughter REFUSED to use the training potty. Like ‘threw a fit and acted like she saw the devil in it” refusal. So someone suggested allowing her to use the toilet. As soon as we did, she practically trained herself. She actually started pooping in the toilet first.
I understand what you have experienced on your child. Don’t you worry because she will change when she grows up. Good luck on your motherhood.
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I know that you can overcome it. That is just some of the things that a mother will experience in motherhood.
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For sure you can be able to potty train your daughter Izzy. Since, everyone is unique I’m sure Izzy can catch it instantly.
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