10 Mar How To Be a Man… When You’re Writing
Today’s post full of GREAT tips if brought to you by the lovely Kristin from Musings of Me, author of One of a Kind and Better Off Friends.
A commenter (Hi Tina!) asked about writing male dialogue, and it reminded me that Kris and I had JUST had a conversation about the very same thing a few days before! She had some great advice, so I asked her to put something together to share, and she definitely delivered.
Without further ado:
How to be a man. . . When you’re writing
So you wanna know how to tap into the mind of man when you’re writing? It’s probably easier than you think. Take off your granny panties and put on some boxer briefs or whatever male attire you’d like and have a seat for a moment while I gave you some tips I’ve learned about writing like a man.
1. Stop thinking like a woman. Yea I know that’s much easier said than done but it’s a must! Women don’t think, talk, act like men so if you go into thinking like a woman, your male characters probably won’t be relatable to men.
2. Listen to men converse in real life. Men don’t converse like women. Women have a tendency to talk all over each other, men don’t do that. In a conversation between 2 or more men, one is going to talk more than the other(s). Men don’t banter back and forth.
3. Where women will confront each other and kind of tell it like it is, men don’t do that. Men like to keep things light even in serious situations with each other. They’ll joke with each other about serious stuff. Although the tone may be light, the message is always ( usually) taken in.
4. Men come up with nick names different than women. A woman’s nick name is usually something she’s had since she was a child. It’s typically a play off her birth name. i.e Patrica is Pat. Christina is Chris, Jameekah is Meekah, you get where I’m going with that. Men’s nicknames are silly most times. Something they do or say can spark a nick name amongst other men and a lot of times they have nothing to do with their given name. For example, my brother had the nickname Crash because he used to get into a lot of car accidents. In my newest novel my main character’s name is Benjamin. I had his friend in the story calling him B, short for Ben. One of my best guy friends told me that his nickname shouldn’t be B because that’s not what other men would call him. He said to call him Oats like the guy on the oatmeal box or Franks as in Benjamin Franklin or Stacks, like stacks of hundreds. I do think this rule applies mostly to African American characters but I’m sure it can be used universally.
There are just a few of my tips. I hope they help. Happy Writing!